Someone asked me recently: “Aren’t all current life blocks traceable to our current life’s childhood experiences? It feels a bit strange that if this isn’t the case, we need help from a psychic instead of remembering ourselves.”
Before I answer that question, I want to begin with another one from the same person: “if we really needed to know our past lives to understand certain blocks we experience in our current life, why aren’t we all just able to remember our past lives ourselves?”
What I’ve learned working with past lives for the last 20 years is that the way trauma from childhood affects us is entirely dependent on the fears and limiting beliefs we carry forward from earlier incarnations.
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Why don’t we remember our past lives ourselves? Why do we require psychics or past-life regression therapists to help us?The answer in part is that you enter this world with a kind of amnesia when it comes to where your soul has been before.
Your past-life experiences can be so dramatic and full of pain and grief that if those memories were conscious, it could be unbearable. (Think of all the emotional pain you’ve suffered in this life and then multiply that by, say, 120.)
I argue, however, that we do remember our past-life traumas. We just don’t recognize the signs.
Past-life memories are less often conscious, and instead show up as unexplained ailments in our bodies, and as fears, phobias, limiting beliefs, as well as an over-reaction to reminders of what happened sometimes hundreds of years ago.
Infertility can be the sign of having died in childbirth. Neck pain can be a memory of once having been hanged. Freaking out over injections can be due to the memory of a fatal snake or spider bite.
The traumas we experience in childhood act as triggers that brings past-life memories to the surface. This is why we all react so differently to the things we went through.
If you have a past-life fear of Inferiority—the result of once having been treated as worthless—the effect of a childhood with an uncaring parent will show up as low-self-esteem. If your soul’s biggest fear is Betrayal, then the resonance will be mistrust. If you carry a fear of Rejection, you can expect to feel like an outsider.
Past-life fears can be overcome by uncovering the original (past life) cause of trauma.
I often tell clients I don’t need to know what happened in their childhood in this life. In my experience, the fastest healing comes from bypassing the trigger in this lifetime by going straight to the (past life) cause. (This is not to say that exploring your early experiences, on your own or with a therapist, can’t be immensely helpful, but without taking your past lives into consideration, you only get part of the picture.)
And why use a psychic? Why not? You wouldn’t think twice about hiring a therapist to help you navigate an emotional crisis like divorce. Or consult a doctor to heal a broken bone. As a past-life psychic, I can uncover your soul’s past in a couple of minutes. It’s my job.
Your fears, beliefs, abilities, behavior, and personality are all the result of your soul’s many lifetimes of experience, both good and bad. With several thousand years and many lifetimes behind you, you can never truly know who you are without knowing who you were.
Ainslie can you help me to remember a trauma from when I was 5 in this lifeyime?
Possibly, but it’s not my purview. I can better help by finding the past-life fear that’s been triggered in this life, and facilitating healing that way.
Hi Ainslie; I have an extreme fear of flying and my Devine spiritually connected instructor suggested I see if something happened to me in a past life, would you know? Thank you.
That’s a question for a session with me. It’s actually a combination of past-life fears. I’ve been able to help several people overcome it.
Dear Ainslie
Delay delay delay delay to the perfect time for your healing surgery… I envision you bouncing back joyfully with a powerful immune system even now….this world needs you!
Thank you, Marilyn. Timing is truly everything. I intend bouncing back better than ever!
Dear Ainslie,
First I want to send you lots of healing! When you finally have your surgery, the doctors will have sages helping them, so all will go well.
I took your class at Kripalu in 2018 and loved it. I’m going to sign up for your June class at Kripalu this year and can’t wait to get some more of your wisdom! I would love to have a past life reading with you when you have an opening. Thank you for being our guru! Fatima
All went well, thank you. See you at Kripalu!
Hello Ainslie,
It was a nice surprise to see my question answered in this post. Thank you for that and hopefully it is also helpful for others.
I understand what you say that there is a bigger picture; we take the scars of our past lives with us into our new lives. And quite possibly those scars are responsible for/are at the root of how we experience the world when we are reincarnated again.
Yet still it seems to me that you could heal from those scars without knowing that the trauma you are currently experiencing, is from a past life.
For example:
I felt unseen and unheard by my parents in this life. There is a good chance this feeling of not mattering stems from a past life.
I still think: whatever the origin, I worked my way through these feelings in this lifetime, found the root of it in this lifetime. This was very healing for me and I know now that when this feeling of not being seen and heard pops up again, its an old pain. The practice of becoming aware of this pain has helped me to stop engaging in it and slowly heal from it. I feel that by becoming aware of a pain that i have carried around for possibly many lifetimes, i could heal that old pain in this lifetime.
I think: maybe we are given situations/circumstamces in life (possibly choose them before we incarnate) that trigger these past life traumas so that we experience them in this life and have a chance to also heal them in this life. Once and for all. On a deeper soul level.
Do you think it is possible to heal from a past life trauma this way?
Finally I was thinking: a friend of mine has a very real frog phobia. Sounds funny but its very real for her. We tried tracing it back to her experiences in this life but we couldnt find anything. I would think that a past life reading could be very helpful for her. Because when you don’t know the root of your behaviour, you can ‘t really cure it (i think).
I hope i am clear, english is not my first language.
Thanks again. I enjoy your blog very much.
All the best,
Esther
I guess my conclusion was:
Some past life trauma is re-experienced clearly by a situation in this life. But i think what you mean is that there is also past life trauma that you take with you that isnt traceable to your current life (like my friend with the frog phobia)
I listened to your podcast with Oprah and felt an instant connection. I enjoyed your insight and ability and what you are able to do fascinating.. I was born into this world from 2 very young parents but always felt much older than them even at a young age. I think it helped me get through certain traumas, experiences that otherwise could have hurt me. Could that ability come from past lives? I’m very curious. And also I’m going to take your souls age quiz. Thank you for your time.