I’m a lucky guy. How many other people regularly hear their clients say the words, “I love you”? I feel touched and honored that so many of my clients feel safe to say those words before hanging up the phone.
The words “I love you” can be hard to say directly.
It requires a strong level of trust to be so open with someone, and that’s one of the reasons I feel so privileged to hear the words as often as I do.
The holiday season is a time to be together with those we love. And it often throws us into the company of those young souls we’ve managed to avoid all year (except, perhaps, for a brief encounter around the Thanksgiving table.
Being around younger souls can be a trying experience.
They tend to be more rigid in their beliefs, more concerned with being right, and less likely to try and understand your point of view. All of which is a result of fear.
And therein lies the key to dealing with them. But first, let’s take a look at the source of their fear.
In a time when a cabal of heartless and even sociopathic younger souls are set to take over the US government, there’s a lot of fear in the air. And it’s not just coming from the socially-conscious older souls.The absence of love is not anger—it’s fear. Click To Tweet
Though progressive-minded old souls are alarmed at what’s going on in the world, it’s the youngest souls who are the most fear-driven.
From bathroom bills, to banning immigrants, to defunding Planned Parenthood, the political right is making its presence known. Why? The answer is simply fear.
Human collective consciousness increases all the time, taking us all with it (rising tides, and all that). Unfortunately, younger souls have a tendency to resist the forward movement, and hold on to the world they know.
The political right is almost entirely made up of fearful younger souls.
They see the world changing, and don’t know what to do. Their fear of the things they don’t understand—LGBT&Qs, equal rights, or those who worship differently—is what unites and motivates them. Donald Trump and his sycophantic acolytes in the media have given voice and legitimacy to their fear-based worldview.
Since the antidote to fear is love, when you encounter a young-soul family member, neighbor, or coworker, should the old-soul approach be to hug them and say, “I love you”?
You could do. But you might encounter some pushback, and at the very least, some strange looks.
So what’s an old soul to do?
As I said above, the younger soul is more rigid in their beliefs, more concerned with being right, and less likely to seek to understand your point of view.
What would happen if you took a loving approach to counter their fear?
Might an open mind help soften their rigidity? Might an open heart break down their need to be right? And might curiosity be the way to overcome their resistance to seeing things from another perspective?
For a great example of how such an approach might work, I’d like to share a beautiful moment from a recent conversation between Bernie Sanders and Ms. Sparks, a Trump supporter.
It went approximately thus:
[Ms. Sparks has been complaining that undocumented immigrants are dodging taxes and keeping her pay low, and she’s having to pay for their benefits.]
Sparks: “Who’s paying for Medicare, the Medicaid, and the Social Security? We are.”
Bernie: “Good point. I’m assuming you believe we should not cut Medicaid, Medicare, or social security?”
Sparks: “Yeah, I believe they shouldn’t be cut.”
Bernie: “Do you know who is now working very hard to try to do that? Republicans in Congress have a plan under the guise of “saving” Medicare and saving Social Security, making devastating cuts. That’s what the Republicans are now trying to do.
“What all of us should know is that over the last 25 years, there has been a massive transfer of wealth in this country from you to the top one-tenth of one percent. In other words, the middle class has shrunk and trillions of dollars have gone to the top one-tenth of one percent.
“Do you think it’s inappropriate to start asking those people to pay their fair share of taxes so we can adequately fund Medicaid and make public colleges and universities tuition-free? Is that an unfair thing to ask?”
Sparks: “I don’t think it’s an unfair thing to ask. They got rich off of us, so it’s time they put back.”
Bernie: “That’s all I’m saying.”
In this exchange, Bernie does an excellent job of walking the path of old soul values.
He doesn’t seek to make his point at Ms. Sparks’ expense. He’s respectful of her opinions, while stating his beliefs clearly. His heart is open, allowing him to come from a loving place.
And look at all the questions Bernie asks. Curiosity is a great tool. It allows you to find the common ground. Wouldn’t you agree?
So, when you find yourself next to your Trump cheerleading brother-in-law at Christmas dinner, or your opinionated boss at the holiday party, remember to ask yourself: WWBD? (What would Bernie do?) As a Level 10 (very old) soul, he makes a wonderful role model.
And if respect, curiosity, and an open heart don’t work, and you start to lose your old-soul composure, you could just try giving them a hug and saying, I love you.”
As we head into the New Year, we’ll be sharing how you can learn to cultivate a loving heart chakra, and how to get involved in helping spread old-soul values of love and peace. Stay tuned!