In the wake of his suicide, I’d planned to write about the life and death of Anthony Bourdain, but my Spirit Guides felt there was little I could do to add to the conversation about this inspiring old soul. Instead, they asked me to write an article about suicide in general.
No soul comes into the world with suicide as some kind of exit strategy.
Which means that, with few exceptions, when it happens, it’s something that derails a person’s life plan.
The impetus to take one’s own life comes from the conscious mind.
The soul is always trying to protect the mind/body/spirit bundle of which it’s a part. It will never urge anyone to take such a drastic course of action.
The means by which someone commits suicide, however, is often related to memories from past lives, and those are carried by the soul.
At a workshop in Canada a few years ago, I told a participant how she’d killed herself in a past life at the age of 19. In that incarnation, she’d been an Italian living in England during World War II. Afraid of being interned as an enemy alien, she took pills an alcohol to end it all.
Her reaction to hearing about this past-life event seemed out of proportion until she described how she’d spent months in the hospital when she was 19, after attempting suicide with pills and alcohol.
I asked another client, one who’d committed suicide with a gun in a prior incarnation, if he ever thought about shooting himself. He replied, “All the time.”
I’ve often heard people say that someone who commits suicide is selfish, and will have to come back in the future and go through an identical life for the lessons they were supposed to learn. But this is not the case.
From the perspective of those in spirit, a soul whose life plan is terminated prematurely by suicide is deserving of nothing but compassion.
Sometimes life becomes so overwhelming that a person sees no way out, and whether someone takes their own life due to mental illness, grief, loss, loneliness, or injury, the attitude of the spirit world is always one of love and understanding.
For a person who takes their own life, there’s no blame or divine punishment once they get to the other side. The universe is endlessly loving.
If someone takes their own life without affecting anyone else, there’s no karma involved. But that’s rare. And when a suicide causes those left behind to go through terrible spiritual or emotional agony, there will be karmic consequences.
I’ve spoken to several souls who committed suicide. Usually there’s a deep sense of regret, purely because of the consequences of their actions on loved ones. One told me, “The moment I pulled the trigger, I wished I hadn’t.”
In future lifetimes, they can erase the karma by helping those they hurt to successfully complete their soul’s purpose.
When suicide is an impetuous action, a person’s soul will want to avoid the risk of the same thing happening again.
If you killed yourself in a state of high emotion a hundred years ago, your soul will seek to protect you by choosing, as part of your life plan, a desire for Safety.
Having a desire for Safety means you’ll look before you leap. It’s designed to prevent you from taking risks, but it comes with a downside. If you have it, you may become overly cautious.
As my Spirit Guides put it, “You might wait for the train to stop completely instead of jumping on board when it slows down.” And that can cause you to miss opportunities when they come your way.
There are three common signs of having taken your own life in another incarnation. One is the result of using a firearm. The second is from using pills, poison, or some kind of drug. The third is related to hanging.
If you once shot yourself, you’ll have startle reflex that’s off the charts. And if the bullet entered your head, you may have an entry or exit wound somewhere on you now, and may suffer from headaches.
Ingesting something like cyanide will show up in this life in a curious way. It will cause your soul to go into high alert when it detects foreign substances in your body. It will work overtime preventing anything from crossing the blood/brain barrier.
When this happens, your system will reject medicines, and might prevent even something like aspirin from taking effect. And I can think of at least six clients who have reported having to take higher than normal doses of novocaine at the dentist.
The signs of having died at the end of a rope are discomfort with turtlenecks and tight collars, neck pain, and problems like thyroid issues, tonsillitis, or continual throat clearing.
Your soul and your spirit guides will never support you in committing suicide.
To do so would be contrary to their prime directive. They are, however, compassionate to a degree that’s hard for us to comprehend. To them, the person who ends their life, and those who are affected by them are worthy of nothing but the deepest love.
I hope it helps to know that Anthony Bourdain will have been met on the other side by a welcoming committee of souls who’ve gone before, whose own experiences of life on earth have given them profound compassion for tortured old souls such as himself.
that is a beautifully written–and wonderful to read– article, Ainsley. Thank you so much for that. Helps me when I think about the death of my mother, knowing that she was received with total love.
Thanks, John. I’ve found it very comforting myself. Appreciate your appreciation.
I’m so glad to read this, three weeks ago i lost my fiance to suicide, and we always here terrible stories about what happened to the soul when someone end their lifes, but with this I feel much better that she was received with love.
Thank you Ainslie & Christine for this “Suicide and your Soul” article. This makes a whole lot of sense.
Dear Ainslie, This is so insightful, thanks!
Please, could you also share the consequences of a life taken by jumping down from a high place, such as a building, bridge etc,? That’d be very interesting. Thanks, Antje
Thanks, Antje. It’s always a fear of heights. And sometimes a desire to skydive or bungee jump as a way to face the fear.
Hi Antje! I can attest to what Ainslie says: EXTREME fear of heights! From early childhood, I was so afraid of heights that for me to walk over a covered skybridge, someone had to hold my hand and I had to close my eyes. The first time I drove over the Aurora Bridge, I nearly passed out. I was six during the Seattle World’s Fair, and my dad wisely stayed on terra firma with me, rather than going up the Space Needle (I did go up at age 19).
In my early 20’s I went through a past life regression, and experienced THREE lifetimes of dying by falling from a height… at least one being suicide. Interestingly, immediately after the regression, my fear reduced considerably. Not that I love heights, but I don’t have a panic attack going over a bridge now.
Excellent and satisfying points Ainslee! This choice by Bourdain has had universal repercussions and is a powerful opportunity for growth if we remain open to it. Thanks for your guidance!
Thanks, James. It should be a reminder to act with compassion since we never truly know what’s going on with someone. Major opportunity for growth!
please consider from abraham hicks in the 1990’s or earlier:
Abe: All human death is [suicide] because everything is self-created. There are so many things that we’re wanting to give you around this subject. We’re going to go right to the heart of it because we think you’re ready for it, and that is: you still believe that death is a bad thing. It feels like something that shouldn’t have happened and something that if there had been any way that we could have prevented it we would have, and something that has gone wrong. And part of the reason that powerful teachers that are in conscious concert with others like you, who are other powerful teachers — in other words, the reason that someone this young and this vital does something like that is to assist all of you in understanding that there *is not death*.
There are a number of things — it’s hard for you to hear, but we’re going to really go after this because we think if anyone will hear it you will. We can feel the intensity of your desire and yet you’re not in a place of such closeness to it that you can’t hear what we’re saying.
…physical beings have treated the subject of death as something not wanted and something inappropriate for so long, and yet you have yourselves in an impossible [position] — this is something every single one of you are going to experience. How do you stand pushing so hard against something that is so inevitable? Do you feel the absurdity of that? And the best way that we can… [help you] hear this maybe in a different way is to say to you: in this Universe that has at this basis only Well-Being, how could something as abhorrent as you think death is even exist…? And what it is, all that what you call death is, is your ultimate pinching yourself off from Source. In other words, it’s sort of like every bad dream you’ve ever had, every negative thought you’ve ever had, every reason that you’ve ever used as your excuse to not allow energy to flow in this moment sort of culminates into the great subject that you all call death. That’s how big and bad and ugly and awful this subject is to you.
And it’s an interesting thing for us to get our thoughts around because it is something that doesn’t even exist and it is the thing that you all use to not allow yourself to live. In other words, the circle of this complex subject is… (brief pause to search for words) very funny. (Laughter.) It is very funny to get a look at it in this way, you see.
When you understand that you are eternal beings — in other words, you walk into this room, you all come willingly and yet you have not committed your life to being in this room. In a few hours, you’re going to get up and you’re going to walk out of here and everybody’s going to say that’s just fine. And yet when somebody makes their transition, which is no different than that — they just withdraw their attention from one room and give their attention to another room — you all act like it’s the end of the world. –A.H.
and also, i think from joshua p warren
We have so little understanding of the vastness of the system we are involved in. In 35 years of paranormal investigation, I have found no evidence whatsoever that “people” die. If my theories and methods are correct, it is not accurate to say there is a “physical world” and a “spirit world” separated by some sort of “veil.” It is more accurate to say there is the “multi-verse” — infinite numbers of coexistent and interactive worlds with infinite numbers of coexistent and interactive beings.
You cannot kill your “self” by disconnecting from one particular physical body. The experience of one bodily death has absolutely no affect on us because multiples of our bodies exist in many time lines. We have vast numbers of them, and they are all part of us.
The loss of one connection to one dimension at any given time is no more serious to the infinite whole of us than a flake of dry skin falling off a finger. You cannot disconnect your self from all the dimensions of the multi-verse. You cannot die. Easy to say, hard to fathom.
Some very interesting points. Thanks for sharing.
Profound and healing words — thank you. So very comforting.
Thank you Laura. I was thinking about you in relation to this article. So pleased to offer comfort to you.
Thank you for this very positive message regarding suicide. Due to mental illness, my brother-in-law used a gun to end his life in a hotel room and that image still haunts me. I find some peace in knowing his soul experienced deep love and compassion on the other side. I am surprised you did not mention Kate Spade, along with Bourdain. From everything I have read, she was a loving, caring and creative soul. I trust she too has entered a state of peace. Thank you again for sharing comforting words from your guides…BTW, it takes my dentist three times as long as the average person (and multiple shots of novocaine) to numb the area they are working on! YIKES!!!
Thanks, Portia. I think the Spirit Guides wanted to keep the article from being about any one person because so many people take their lives every day. Multiple shots of novocaine? Sounds like your soul is determined to resist the drug.
Comforting, as always. Thank you for the insight into a very emotional subject. I’m so grateful the universe is such a loving, compassionate place. 💖
Thanks, Florence. Endlessly loving is how my Spirit Guides describe the universe. I find it a great comfort too.
Thanks Ainslie. If only everyone read your insights. We have so much to learn! Miss you and the Soul Group.
Thanks, Christine. We miss you too!
This is a beautiful, resonant article on suicide which brings light integrity and and comfort to an avoided topic. Thank you deeply !
Thank you, Marilyn.
I also need multiple shots of the stronger Novicain. I hate turtlenecks. Choker necklaces I can handle for a bit. 😓
Yup. All past-life death-related issues, Andrea.
Thank you for this wonderful article. It came to me at the right time. I am very grateful that you took the time to write this. I can not wait to read all of the blogs. Love and light to you my friend <3
I’m glad you found it helpful!
I am very appreciative of this article and this particular line: The signs of having died at the end of a rope are discomfort with turtlenecks and tight collars, neck pain, and problems like thyroid issues, tonsillitis, or continual throat clearing.
Ever since I can remember, I cannot stand anything around my neck. I do suffer from the other issues mentioned as well. I always say I was hung in a former life. It was just so strange to see it in writing and know that I suffer from all of them.
It is also a way to come to terms with the issue and try to move on from them. That shall be my task for the future, and I know it may take a while.
Thanks again for article, it really rang true for me and I am sure many others.
You’re welcome, Susan. I’m glad the messages resonates for you.
Isn’t it a beautiful thing, to come across such soothing and immensely cathartic reading, just at the perfect time?!?
Your article is such a breath of fresh air…
Thank you, thank you, thank you!
You’re welcome, Tracy. I’m glad my words resonated.
What about people that have lived most of their life but their bodies are breaking down on them? Like chronic disease, pain, etc? Is there a reason to stay and suffer through that knowing it will never be better?
I’m sorry you’re suffering, life on the physical plane can be really hard sometimes. There are always reasons to try and work through life’s challenges. I hope you find the solace you seek.