The Grim Reaper representing a fear of death

Soul Ages and the Fear of Death

How an old and a young soul relate to their own mortality can be very different. Though each may have what appears to be a fear of death, the young soul’s fear is more likely to be of the unknown, while the old soul’s fear is one of failure.

Though a young soul might have died and reincarnated many times, their lack of introspection makes it hard for the conscious mind to grasp what the soul knows: that this is one of many lives, and that death is simply part of the process every soul goes through.

The old soul, however, with many more lifetimes under its belt, has a greater sense that there’s nothing to fear about leaving the Physical Plane, and that they’ll be back again soon, even if they’re not consciously aware of it.

When it comes to a fear of death, the difference between a young soul and an old soul can be summed up in the following way:

The young soul says, “I don’t want to die!”

The old soul says, “I don’t want to die now!”

The fear of Failure is the inevitable consequence of having had incarnations that didn’t work out.

You might have died young two lifetimes ago. And maybe your last incarnation was one in which you blew it by straying too far from the plan your soul created for you.

All past-life fears are the result of having had your life plan derailed in an earlier incarnation.

The soul carries the fears into future incarnations, where they can lay dormant for years.

It takes some kind of a trigger to bring a fear to the surface. Anything that reminds your soul of its own mortality—the death of a loved one, or a serious illness, for example—can trigger a fear of Failure.

I’ve worked with clients who’ve had Near Death Experiences, or NDEs. One typical trait you’ll see in them is a greater than before impetus to get things done. One client, whose heart had stopped after an accident, told me how she had the experience of going to the other side, and came back determined to make every minute count.

And that’s how we should all be. We shouldn’t wait for an NDE to trigger our fear of Failure and spur us into action.

The old soul’s fear of death is actually a fear of premature death. Every soul is concerned that it will reach the end of its life and regret the things it didn’t do.

An easy way to avoid end-of-life regrets is to make sure you do the things you’re meant to do in this life. Start doing them now, not later.

If you love to dance, then dance. If you’ve always wanted to visit Rome, don’t put it off. Whatever you’ve talked about doing, start doing it.

When you do, your soul can relax and stop worrying that you’ll reach the end of this life with unfinished business.


10 replies
  1. Fiona
    Fiona says:

    Firstly, sending you all blessings for your health, Ainslie.
    I sometimes feel that despite having taken my abilities as a musician and a writer to a fairly high level in terms of study and education, I don’t think I’ve expressed those gifts fully, and I become more aware of that as I get older. My expression as a healer, a mother, and now a grandmother, have always somehow taken priority. Maybe this happens to many women? Your decision to have a sketching practice is inspiring. I need to give myself time for my writing and music practice. My soul needs that, I think.

    • Ainslie Macleod
      Ainslie Macleod says:

      Thanks for the good wishes, Fiona. Sometimes our priorities shift, which may be what’s happening for you now. I recall how talented a musician you were at 16. Sounds like time to get back into it! Good luck!

  2. Rosemary Cobby
    Rosemary Cobby says:

    Hi Ainslie, do you think it’s possible my 24 year old son who was recently paralyzed in a skiing accident was straying too far from the plan his soul created in this incarnation and therefore needed to get him back on track and the accident was a way to do that?

    • Ainslie Macleod
      Ainslie Macleod says:

      I’m sorry to hear about your son, Rosemary. My understanding is that an accident like that is not designed to happen, but when it does, it’s an opportunity to look for lessons from the experience.

  3. Kay
    Kay says:

    I completely understand the “not yet” part! I have no fear of death, just not right now, please! There are so many things still to do, I feel I have to remind myself daily to not let moments pass by. My word this year is “DO” and I wear a bracelet with that on it to remind me daily to do the things that fulfill me…how fitting!
    Best wishes for a safe and healing surgery and a quick recovery so you can get back to DOing the things that bring you joy.

  4. Fiona
    Fiona says:

    Feeling this morning the playful light of Mozart sonatas. It’s not entirely forgotten! And maybe there is some added grace to it all?
    And it came to me that poetry could come as simply as early morning birdsong. Naturally, with not too much of the fear of overthinking, or whether anyone is listening. Just for the joy of the day. Wishing you healing and joy in your creativity, Ainslie.


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